Thursday, March 4, 2010

Breaking News: Baby's Birthday is Set... Huh?!?!

Ahhh, developing news! I had my eye appointment on Monday and it showed that I some new "spots" in my eyes. I did have laser surgery about 7 or 8 years ago but since then, things have been great... until now. I know that pregnancy can cause this and my ophthalmologist did say that it wasn't a lot and will likely go down after I have the baby, but she is recommending a c-section just to be safe.

Okay, not what I wanted to hear, but I see my ob every Friday and figured we would discuss this with her. On a side note, by ophth is my cousin and I know she is not extremely experienced with T1 patients, let alone those who are pregnant and that she is getting all of her info from a book, not from experience... while she is very very intelligent and trustworthy, I wanted to get the opinion of my ob before getting too emotional about it. I left feeling a little down, but not terribly, because I didn't have all of the information I needed yet.

Well, after my eye appointment, I had my records faxed to my ob. Well, I missed a call from my ob yesterday and just figured they would say that my ophth was recommending a c-section. I got in touch with them this morning and the nurse just said "well, your ophth is recommending a c-section so we have you scheduled for Wednesday, March 31st at 12:30 to have your baby..."


Now that is NOT what I was expecting AT ALL! I was just so surprised by the call because I see the doc every single Friday and assume that this decision could have been made after we had discussed it two days later ... I mean, if she really thinks that a c-section is best, then I am going to do whatever it takes to make sure my baby is safe, but I want all the information, and I believe that I at least get a say in what happens. We have so much to talk about tomorrow!!

I am just still kind of shocked that based on that call, the decision is made on her end! I mean, that's it. I get a phone call and BAM, here is your baby's birthday, thanks for playing?? I guess I don't really know how I was expecting it to all happen, but we hadn't even discussed scheduling a day for induction or c-section yet and I was going to talk to my doc about all that tomorrow anyway. My emotions are just in a whirlwind right now, although, I am sure after tomorrow, I will settle down a bit... It just seems so unreal.

She called about two hours ago, and I am already feeling a little better about it, but I will definitely update you all after my appointment!


Laura said...

Wow Suzanne, Crazy. Don't forget you need to do what is best for baby and YOU! I totally understand that let down of things not going like you planned, but it is quickly replaced when you have that sweet, sweet baby in your arms.
I'm interested to hear what your ob says on Friday. (Friday was when I always saw my ob too :)
Keep us updated!

Kerri. said...

I can SO relate to this whole post! At a recent eye dilation, they found some stubborn spots in my left eye, and determined that a c-section was the best option for me and my baby. So when my OB/GYN called me, at home, at 9 pm that night, and said, "So April 29th - does that work for you to come in a deliver the baby?" I was SHOCKED. Not so much by the c-section, because I was kind of expecting it, based on the location of the retinopathy, but just by the sheer magnitude of knowing when my daughter is arriving.

It's like being given an official launch date. No waiting for water to break, no dramatic labor stories. Just calm, scheduled delivery.

... so why am I terrified? :)

(And our babies are due almost exactly a month apart - congrats again!!!)

Christi said...

Hey! I just stumbled across your blog. I actually recently connected with Layne (Semi Charmed Life) in a similar way. I'm also a type 1 diabetic and had a healthy (though big) baby boy almost 3 years ago now. I know how you feel with all the doctor's overwhelming, but so good to know everything is well with the baby. I had a planned induction myself, and then after 12 hours of labor and getting no where I ended up with a c-section. To offer you comfort, the c-section and recovery from it wasn't bad at all. And I don't know if your baby is measuring big, but if so, a c-section is a much easier way to go. I don't think anyone has had a birth go as've got to go with the flow and trust that things will work out for the best for you and your baby. I hope you feel more settled in the decision once you get to talk more to your OB. It's an exciting time...enjoy it!

Layne said...

Wow, Suzanne. That would bother me too! I mean, as a diabetic I feel like so many decisions are just made for me. I'm sure THAT particular one isn't something I could let go so easily. I can only imagine how frustrating it would be to be TOLD what your baby's birthday will be and that, btw, you WILL be having a C-section without any input from you.

Maybe it was a big misunderstanding . . . the nurses saw the fax from your Ophth. and just assumed it was a done deal and scheduled your C-section. Either way, I hope that you are able to speak with your OB and get her input and that you can be involved in whatever decision is made and be happy with it.

Whatever happens, you will have a very cute little bundle to show for all your hard work in just a few weeks!!

Bee said...

Oh wow! I bet that would be a complete system shock!

My OB just told me "If you make it to your due-date we'll do a c-section, and we won't let you go more than 3 days after your due date." Otherwise if I went into labor on my own he'd 'decide from there' what would happen based on a number of things.

I can't imagine just being told 'this is the day your baby will be born.' I hope all goes well with it, though! It probably makes it a little more 'real' because you'll be counting down the days and 'running out of time.' heehee!

Much love and blessings, darling! :)

~Suzanne~ said...

Laura ~ I am very much trying to hold onto the thought that once she is here, I won't really care HOW she got here... thank you for reminding me of that!!

Kerri ~ Terrified is a pretty good word... I'm trying to hold it together!! I've managed to for this long, I can't fall apart now!! Ahh, only three weeks away!

Hi Christi ~ I'm glad you found us!! Everyone else who has commented here also have marvelous blogs; you should check them all out ;) Thankfully she is not measuring big, but I am glad to know that the recovery isn't so bad... I hate the idea of surgery; I've never even had STITCHES!

Layne ~ no misunderstanding, but I can't wait to show her off!! In the grand scheme of things, the c-section won't matter much anyway... I just want to MEET her!

Bethany ~ You did end up having a vaginal birth, didn't you? Gosh, I really am running out of time, haha, but I really can't wait!